For way too many homosexuals, even in these AIDS-ridden times, impersonal or casual sex with numerous partners is popular.
Extreme promiscuity has in fact been a common occurrence among homosexuals for a long time. Back in 1982, homosexual Dennis Altman even admitted: "now there is a move toward claiming that this [i.e., promiscuity] is part of a different, perhaps even superior, way of managing sexual relationships....[T]he assumption that it is desirable to have frequent and varied sex partners is increasingly seen as a positive part of the gay life style."1
A couple of homosexual authors, Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen, noted that "gay men aren't very good at having and holding lovers."2 This is because, they say, "gay men tire of their partners (sexually, at any rate) more rapidly than straight men."3
According to Kirk and Madsen, the average homosexual first "seeks [sexual] novelty in partners, rather than practices, and becomes massively promiscuous; [but] eventually, all bodies become boring, and only new practices will thrill."4
If loving relationships sound rare among homosexuals it is because they are. Jean Genet, a homosexual, observed: "What is a homosexual? A man for whom, first of all, the entire female sex, half of humanity, doesn't exist....For him romance is only a kind of stupidity or deception--for him only pleasure exists."5
Homosexual author Seymour Kleinberg: "The prodigiousness of sex really depends deeply on change, and promiscuity is the easiest kind of change for gay men."6
Homosexual author Simon LeVay: "In a study in the San Francisco Bay area in the 1970s...almost one-half of the white gay men and one-third of the black gay men claimed to have had at least five hundred different male sex partners."7
For many homosexuals the world seems to intentionally be a cold, loveless place where people just use other people's bodies for their own selfish, sexual purposes. Is that the kind of world we want? Is that the kind of world psychologically healthy people want?
(Hollywood, incidentally, is materially contributing to that sexually exploitative world. Actor Woody Harrelson, for example, admits: "Every [acting] business I ever entered into in New York seemed to have a casting couch....I've seen so many people sleep with people they loathe in order to further their ambition."8
(Jenny McCarthy similarly noted: "[In Los Angeles you] hear about casting couches--which I thought were just big fluffy couches--but you don't know till you experience it how corrupt it is. I was the only girl in my clique who wasn't sleeping with someone to get a job."9
(Chris Hanley, producer of over 20 movies ["American Psycho," "The Virgin Suicides," etc.] "told his class reunion at Amherst College in Massachusetts about the Hollywood casting process: 'Almost every leading actress in all of my 24 films has slept with a director or producer or a leading actor to get the part that launched her career.'"10
(And Peter Keough, a writer for the Chicago Tribune, sounded a kindred tune. He described Hollywood as "a town where everyone is selling body and soul for fame and fortune, and all--especially women--are considered commodities."11
(We probably should boycott Hollywood until they clean up the place. If we allow Hollywood to impose its cold-blooded, money-grubber values on us we'll all be reduced to heartless bodily things to be used as sex objects and for money or to be discarded when convenient [e.g., abortion].
(While on the subject of Hollywood, here are a couple of revealing quotes. First, from Teller [of Penn and Teller fame]: "It shouldn't be true, but I'm afraid it's more true than I'd like to admit. People in the entertainment business actually celebrate the fact they are working for the lowest common denominator, that no one ever went broke underestimating the intelligence of the American public."12
(And second, from film director Joel Schumaker [of "Batman Forever" and "The Client" fame]: "I think [the studios] have a tendency to think the audience is stupid and unsophisticated. I think there's a notion in a lot of people's minds in Hollywood that...everybody's like the people in [the movie] 'Deliverance.'"13 The public is enriching people who think the public is stupid.)
People who are promiscuous are basically saying: "I don't think you're worth marrying but I'll use you for sex." Promiscuity, sleeping together, pre-marital sex, living together--they are all just euphemisms for sexual exploitation.
We can have a warm, loving world where people are treated with respect; or, we can have a cold, impersonal, exploitative world where people are treated as things, as commodities. Which would you prefer?
Footnotes
1. Dennis Altman, The Homosexualization of America, the Americanization of the Homosexual (NY: St. Martin's Press, 1982), pp. 16-7.
2. Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen, After the Ball (NY: Doubleday, 1989), p. 320.
3. Ibid., p. 319.
4. Ibid., p. 304.
5. Thomas McGonigle, "By his nature, out of step," Chicago Tribune, Oct. 24, 1993, section 14, p. 3.
6. Seymour Kleinberg, Alienated Affections (NY: St. Martin's Press, 1980), p. 171.
7. Simon LeVay, Queer Science (Cambridge, MA: The MIT Press, 1996), p. 159.
8. Stephanie Mansfield, "Wild and Woody," Chicago Sun-Times, USA Weekend sec, July 5-7, 1996, p. 5.
9. Cheryl Lavin, "Dumb like a fox," Chicago Tribune, Aug. 24, 1997, sec. 10, p. 16.
10. "News from the casting couch," Chicago Sun-Times, June 10, 2005, p. 52.
11. Peter Keough, "Taking it off takes off," Chicago Tribune, April 30, 1995, sec. 13, p. 3.
12. Bill Zwecker, "Penn & Teller find magic in full disclosure," Chicago Sun-Times, May 31, 1998, "Showcase" section, p. 3E.
13. Mark Caro, "The 'science' of who sits in the movie seats," Chicago Tribune, Oct. 15, 2000, sec. 7, p. 7.
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